Thanks Bill for your reply to my post and thanks to jamie-lee. Seperation continues, talked to her a couple of times last night regarding one of our rentals. She lets me talk about our relationship and my feelings but is not very open yet with her feelings. Keeping her cards pretty close to her vest. But she stopped by the house today to get some mail and took the letters I wrote to her. When I asked her if she read them she says yes, they were nice. Says she is reading the books I bought so maybe some of this is sinking in or being absorbed. I can only hope that with time she sees the path to reconciliation as clearly as I do. I suppose that is what we all hope for.<BR> Bill, the books I have read and am sharing with wife are "Give & Take", "Men Are From Mars etc.", "Surviving An Affair", "Private Lies", "Winning Your Wife Back Before Its Too Late", "Surviving Infidelity", and just starting "The Solo Partner". Not sharing "Winning Your Wife Back" with her yet. All very good and seem to be helping me deal with my emotions, and helping me create a plan to win back my wife. Have the list posted by NSR and just stopping by Barnes & Noble every couple of days to see what they have. Any other suggestions would be appreciated. For now Plan A & praying for the best..<BR> Gale

Gale,<P>My W responded exactly the same to all of my letters. I poured out my soul and she would say thanks. We won't see the effects of them for a while.<P>I have read most of those books, I liked winning you wife back. It was the first one I read.<P>I highly suggest Harley's book Lovebusting. Very insightful for us plan-aers. Also Gary Smalleys book Love is a decision was great.<P>Its hard work I know, keep the main objective in sight and I believe things will work out. The path is <B>very</B> narrow.<P>Have you concidered talking to Steve Harley? The best $130.00 I've spent.<P>Hang in,<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>