My H is planning on moving some things out tomorrow. He and OW are going to move into a house together. He called me this morning just to talk. I asked him what he planned on moving out of here. He said not much just 2 chairs and some essentials. He said he doesn't want it to be a permanent thing. I really question if he isn't having many 2nd thoughts. He was joking around the other day and said he wanted us to move with him. I said ya right but I think in some twisted way he was seriouse. He still depends on me to help him with alot of his decisions. Heck he asked me to call the furniture store for him and check on used furniture. OW must be really helpless. The hardest thing about all this is we are still really connected. He has admitted feeling that way also. I really wonder if he is going to be able to seperate from me as easily as he thinks he is. I really don't think he has come close to grasping the reality of what he has done to us. I guess right now I'm satisfied to sit back, watch and wait. I am actually kind of enjoying this new independence and right now am in no hurry to make any decisions. We talk together like the best friends we have always been. He tells me everything about his life with her. It's like he is looking for my approval. Of course I tell him my honest feelings, sometimes he doesn't like them but it doesn't seem to stop him. Then there is the sex. When he comes here he begs to make love to me . He says that nobody will ever compare to me. whats that about? I guess this post really doesn't make a whole lot of sense. I just have all of these questions and nobody that can answer them.

I wish I could shed some light on things. I think you are handeling thing well. All you really can do is make the best of a bad situation.

Crazy - I hope you didn't call the furniture store for him!!!! (Sorry - some anger coming out here.)<P>What are you planning to do? Plan B? <P>Starpony

Hey your Husband sounds very much like mine to a certain extent. He is not moving in with OW but he says a lot of the things your Husband says. I can only put it down to total confusion in their lives. Hang in there.

Hi Crazy,<BR>I wish I could tell you what he is doing, what I don't even think he knows. It's sounds to me like this OW is pretty worthless. Let's see- you cook him dinner;you make his phone calls; you WOW him in bed; what could this OW possible have that YOU don't. Nothing, is my best guess. Maybe he is feeling obligated to her because he moved her here, I don't know.<BR>Hang in there, babe. Go get some Preference and wash that man right out of your hair.<BR>Sending you lots and hugs and love,<BR>Cheryl<BR>PS. about the guy at work- yea, pretty cute-kinda like a big burly teddy bear-he's a hunter/fisherman kinda guy. Not bad though. I share my beer with you!!!<BR>LOL

man, your poor H is so confused...You're right, i don't think he grasps at all what he's done.<BR>It appears that you fulfill all his needs, so i wonder what he gets from her?

Hi cOw -<P>Sounds like he's just a Whack-A-Doodle like mine is!!!!<P>Hang on because the ride not only goes up and down - when they're like this it starts spinning too!!! LOL!!<P>Hugs, <P>Sheba