A great deal of time has passed since I have been with OM. Now, he calls me and tells me that he needs me to be his strength so as not to sleep with other women so that he can get his X back? Guess how he wants me to do this? He wants me to be his phone lover, so that he is sexually satisfied and doesn't need to go out and find another woman!! He explained that this way he doesn't have to actually have SEX with someone and he won't be lying to her!! And it's ok for me to jeopradize my marriage further? I don't think so!! ARGH!! I am so angry I could SPIT!! What does he think I am, a 1-900 number?? ( I guess I deserve that! ) I was so shocked that I couldn't even say anything to him! I just sat there in silence not believing what I was hearing! He kept going on and on about how he needs me, loves me, misses me, bringing up past encounters with me and the whole time I knew he was just kissing up to me so that I would give in by trying to play on my emotions! NO WAY!! And still, I didn't say a word. I hung up on him and blocked his number from calling here! At this rate, he is never going to get her back. And she would be crazy to take him! I am not threatened by him, obviously, since he want's his X back so bad he wouldn't dare tell me if I didn't do it, he would let my H know. He knows I could damage his hopes and dreams far more, considering his X is a woman who doesn't talk to him for weeks if she finds he has even watched an R rated movie! Besides, he is scared of my H. It's time for him to take responsibility for himself and I will not even dignify his proposal with a response!! Sorry.... I just needed to vent and WHO ELSE AM I GOING TO TALK TO?

Lacee,<P>Best thing that could happen for you, dear. Realizing that your OM is the biggest jerk on the planet will help you through withdrawal more quickly than anything else on earth.

Lacee,<P>Bravo! Bravo! Bravo!<P>This OM is a few layers <B>below</B> dirt...<BR>You did good...<P>The only thing better would have been an immediate hang up! <P>Jim<BR>

Good job, Lacee!! <P>Amazing what nerve they have sometimes, huh?<P>Sweetie, you just took a MAJOR step. Aren't you proud of yourself???<P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{Lacee}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Lori

k, oh yes! I agree! I can't think of anyone that is a bigger Jerk! It does help.. although I feel a bit bad about the disrespect shown towards me... But I know it will help me get through this... thank you so much for your help...<P>NSR, A few layers below dirt is right!! You know, I would have hung up sooner but I was caught off guard and shocked, also, I think I was a little amused at his ideas! Boy oh boy, does he have it all backwards! Didn't know whether to cry or laugh... but I feel good about what I did.. I'm a little regrettful that I didn't hang up immediately... but then I would have missed all the good stuff that really got me angry enough to take this step.. it certainly opened my eyes... thanks for your approval! It means a lot to me.... <P>lostva, YES! YES! YES!!! I feel wonderful! Do you have any idea how much better I feel? Of COURSE you do! That is what you are all here for and I appreciate you all so much! I do feel proud of myself. I am so full of nervous energy right now that I think I willl take it out on my house... It needs a good cleaning! Thanks for your support....<P>I am breathing a big sigh of relief and feeling that there is hope for me afterall.....

Well, I made it through the day and calmed down quite a lot. Worked off all the nervous energy he created. Then, I got in the car to go get kids from school. HA! Message on my cell phone from OM. "Did I say something to offend you?" DUH!!!!!!!!! I am feeling pretty crummy about the whole thing..... Wish I could tell him a thing or two.... oh well..... sigh.....<p>[This message has been edited by Lacee (edited January 11, 2000).]

Lacee,<BR>Don't even respond back. Yelch! Blech! What a yucky story! It does always help when the OM does something really idiotic... <P>Hope you are doing ok. You sounded pretty upbeat today, in spite of the OM's antics.