We talk a lot about the hurt and pain and difficulties, but there is another side of the coin; another thread that runs alongside but doesn't often connect (that's why I call myself schizzo).<P>I AM SO PROUD OF MY HUSBAND. He has come very far in two months. He broke it off with OW because he knew it was right even though his feelings for me at the time were way down. He has been totally honest with me, allowing us to work through together on the "sticky" areas. We've spent so much good time together, he made the time from work for two trips for us. Lovebusters from him were never a big problem, but the hate I felt during the EMA has been replaced by loving, true concern for me. And he is doing a good job of meeting my needs. Last weekend he helped me by picking up the house even though I should have had it done. Sound like the four rules? Yes. Actually I'm very proud of me too.<P>For all of you that would like to say how proud you are of your spouse, here's your chance. I sure hope I'm not the only one.<P>

I love reading these.<P>Lori

hey schizzo...read my 'hey Deut' post.....<P>lol<P>Dylan<P>------------------<BR>so maybe you wanted a martyr....just a regular gal would'nt do..but baby, I can't hang upon no lover's cross for you...Jim Croce

Thanks Schizzo for the post, yah, I need to say how proud I am of my husband as well.<P>Before I found this forum and Dr. Harley's no lovebusting policy I did just exactly that. How I didn't drive my H away I do not know, BUT he hung in there in spite of my hateful words and complaints! He said he never went into withdrawal from the OW but felt sometimes that he would of had more peace while I vented my anger. Thank God he loved me enough to stay until I got some sense. Recovery is in full swing!<P>"eyes wide open" Taj

Me too! Me too!<BR>I am incredibly proud of my Dylan. Despite my betrayal and the pain that I caused her, she kept her head at all times, never flying off the handle, though God knows I deserved it. She 'handled' this situation with dignity and always treated me with respect, though again, I far from deserved it. She has been there through thick and thin, sick and sin, and though she must have been dying inside, she remained functional and reasonable. She was able to see, even when I was not that there was a good person inside of me and was willing to put her own pain and devastation aside so that the good person in me could come out and grow.<BR>I don't deserve such a woman.... yet. But I now have something to live up to, and if I am ever able to become half the man she deserves, I will have improved myself tremendously and acheived great things.<BR>I owe it all to her.<BR> <BR>Deut

Dylan,I eavesdropped on your post to Duet and it made my heart happy. The love you two share is incredible. This response from Duet is also truly touching. I hope that you two will keep striving for the wonderful life you both deserve.<P>Have you ever thought about writing, as a career? You are awesome!!!!<P>------------------<BR>God Bless you and yours,<P>Sheryl W.<P>www.widesmiles.org/gallery/britanie<BR>

Soulloss, I went back and read your thread. I agreed with the portrait of the h's evil twin who was always yelling at the kids. It reminded of another big reason I am proud of my dear h. He has been soooo good with our two year old little dolly girl, holding her, being patient with her terrible twos. And he's shown so much patience to our somewhat wild almost 5 year old, playing games with him, getting up at night when he has asthma. Thank-you, my darling.

Haven't posted in a while but read almost daily. It is truly wonderful to love someone in a way that my wife and I do today. It is really a shame that we haven't experienced this depth of feeling all of our lives together. But, with God's help we will share it for the rest of our lives. I've said so many times that the look of love in her eyes is something to behold. It is almost angelic in appearance. We live by Harley's four rules every day now. We begin and end each day together with a prayer and an I LOVE YOU to each other. It is as though we have replaced the wall we built around/between us over the years with an egg shell. We have to be so careful not to crack it or break it in any way that would cause hurt or pain in one another. Our love is truly wonderful and everyone around us can see it in us. We have finally gotten our priorities where they need to be starting with each other. God does make miracles happen. It is just so sad He had to let us hurt each other this way this much to wake us up.<P>_____________________________________________<P>It's the little things we do for each other that mean so much.........each and and every one of them everyday!