He admits he "ran into her in at a bar" last Thursday, I told him I drove by her house at 5:00am and saw his car there, he spent the night.<P>He left last to "get gas" and I checked his cell phone this morning and he had called the bar she works at.<P>I asked him this morning is it back on, was it ever off, I can just see it now...he's probably back in the thrill of it, yuck.<P>Anyway, I told him I was going to move out Thursday - payday - because it's been 1.5 years and it's still going on.<P>He said he thought it was a foolish idea.<P>But he didn't say anything else. He didn't defend or explain or anything.<P>I just can go through this again. Maybe he stopped seeing her for a few weeks at the most?<P>But I won't take it any more. I told him she could have him, go ahead and see her I don't care, I know anyway.<P>Damn. Am I playing with fire my moving for a week or so? What can really change? Either he has feelings for her or not and it has nothing to do with me, whether I'm there physically in the house or not.<P>I guess I'M the one who is afraid to move out, because I want it to MAKE HIM WAKE UP but I know the reason to move out is to protect myself from more hurt.<P>Plus he just got laid off again so he has all day to stare at the walls and go see her.<P>Thank the Lord I have a great job I love to keep myself from crying.<P>jt

sorry to hear that.<P>I guess its time to throw in the towel, you cant stop anybody from being dysfunctional or self-destructive. sucks, dont it?

I don't see a whole lot of reason for you to stay since you're not married and it seems like he hasn't been faithful to you and can't/won't make a commitment to you. Read and learn as much as you can about marriage and relationships and do it right the next time. Read what Dr. Harley says about living together before being married at this site: <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5510_qa.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5510_qa.html</A> <P>Even so, it is your call. Maybe you can make it work. Do you think he will ever be a good and faithful partner to you? Good luck.

The thought that he "could" be a good and faithful partner has been keeping me around I suppose.<P>Even last night he commented how he hadn't been the best BF to me, but he COULD be.<P>But not while he's addicted to her.<P>And the !@#$% flu on top of this.<P>jt<P>