What I don't understand if when your spouse has an affair and then is found out and the betrayed spouse says well, if that is what you want then go, get it, what are you waiting for, or ,,,,, you contact the other<BR>w or m and tell them they can have your spouse to come pick up thier stuff, they don't seem to really want that other person, so what is the attraction. My H never considered leaving me, he thought that he could just sow his oats awhile, not get caught, then settle back into our marriage, when i found out I told them if that is what they wanted to be together I wouldn't stand in thier way he couldn't come home fast enough and she didn't seem to be so attractive to him any nore nor did she want<BR>the problem of worrying if he would do the same to her, What do you think?????