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In Plan A-do you get your spouse to admit to the affair first and then in a non LoveBusting way request that they end it? How do you do this when H. says he doesn't want to work on marriage because it's too painful (I hurt him deeply-no affair). Unsure on how to proceed.
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Hi Molly,<BR>If you haven't gotten the book SURVIVING THE AFFAIR by Harley, do so. Plan A is spelled out really well. <P>Getting your spouse to admit to the affair may not happen. Denial of the affair is a major portion of many of the betrayers behavior. You can do Plan A without knowing for sure. I did. TNT did. And there are probably others here as well that I just can't think of at the moment.<P>Plan A also does not require your spouse to work on the marriage...or end the affair. It is YOUR behavior you are working on, which generally leads to a change in your spouse's behavior.<P>Good luck<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Do not get tired of doing what is right, for after awhile you will reap a harvest of blessings if you do not get discouraged and give up. (Gal 6:9)<P><BR>
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Thank you so much. I just purchased SAA yesterday. I haven't finished it and wasn't too sure. What is the status of your relationship?
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