Did you all miss me?.. <BR>Man, there sure are a lot of new faces around here in the time I've been gone. For the "newbies" I'll attest, this place can be a real help.<BR>For those of us "older" posters who recall my ordeal...and we all kow what I mean.....I'm here to first say thanks for helping me through it all, all my rants, lows, etc. Things have become more stable, I've taken charge of the situation too. I grew tired of the lies and being put into a situation where I was always set up to lose so I sent my (ex)wife on her way. Hired a lawyer and have started a new life with my son. He's doing a lot better than anyone thought. His mom is now living a good 1500 mile drive from us. She's about a month away from giving birth to the OM's child (might I also add, she met up with him on her way to where she's at). She's having a tough time getting settled and OM refuses to do anything to help her out. She calls on a regular basis to cry to me how things are and out of the kindness of my heart I try to do what I can, if not for her, atleast for that innocent child. I on the other hand feel like a huge weight has been lifted and many new things have happened to my liking. I've landed a part time job with my favorite NFL team writing a weekly column, I've even had a few offers to date... Actually have taken a few of those up on the offers. Nothing serious but it's great to get out and have some fun for a change...and knowing that I am found to be attractive to another female, contrary to what my (ex)wife said, makes me feel real good about myself. After what I went through, I needed the ego boost. I even hooked up with an old girlfriend from back home during the holidays, things "clicked" again and we dated a couple of times while up there. Now she's calling me and is looking to make plans to stop by here for her vacation. So now I get to show here around this town... I don't know how to explain it but it's great knowing I can rebound from all the crap I went through, even in such a losing case as mine was. Things are looking so much better, I'm on great terms with my (ex)wife still, I'm on great terms with whom I date....for they are told up front my situation and my expectations....no pressure and no head games, thye know what they are getting into. It's a new found freedom! Sure there are still days where I get depressed (yesterday was one) and there have been times where I miss having someone I care about laying next to me in bed, but when it gets that bad, I have my son to cheer me up and to hold and love. Seeing his smile everyday now makes it all worthwhile. I made the right choice!<P>Thank you everyone, thank you!<P>K, I'm still waiting to get Marisa's number from ya. I'm available now....

Blues,<P>Although I'm always disappointed to see a marriage fail, it's good to see that you're successfully recovering from your divorce so quickly. And I'm very glad that you're getting the opportunity to retain custody of your son---that's a great thing for you to cherish. On good terms with your ex too---that's excellent as well.<P>I'll remind you to be careful with rebound relationships, and take your time. Of course you'll be wildly successful in dating, now that you've got all those great MarriageBuilder skills in place---you'll be in hot demand.<P>I'll check my planner and dig up that phone number for Marisa... <P>Congratulations, Blues!

<A HREF="http://www.noaloha.com/tomei/" TARGET=_blank>Marisa Tomei</A>

Thanks K,<P>Yes, I'm all careful about the "rebound" factor, I even explain as much to the women I've dated. That's why right now we are all just cooling our heals and focusing on having a good time together. My son also takes first place on my schedule and I make everyone aware of that too. The way I see it if they can't accept he comes first in my life, they have no place in mine. Thus far, no problems. I've even gotten a few compliments on how it's so great I'm willing to accept the role of being a single dad, they said it shows I have more of what it takes to be a real man than most other men will do. It actually got me one of my dates... <P>Chris,<P>How did you know that was my "start" page?...

Blues---we gotta go out for beers sometime. You're a very healthy individual... <P>Chris---get lost!!!!

K......are you asking me out on a date? <P>I'll buy if you fly!<BR>I never pass up a chance to drink a beer.<BR>Chris is welcome too...nothing like a 3some