If you are there, <B>WE NEED YOU!</B> We want to hear about your journey. Hummingbird, Holly, and I all could use your support right now.<P>Please e-mail me at Slmd143@hotmail.com

Dear Susan,<P>I am hesitant to e-mail because my e-mail etc is an open book. Let me get back to you later.

Well, help us via this board then please.

Hi Susan,<P>I am not much of a poster but I do a lot of reading on this board. One problem that I do have, however, is that, being a betrayer, I don't think we are entirely welcome and maybe we should not be.<p>[This message has been edited by Bonny (edited March 10, 2000).]

I too have AOL and AOL instant message, but I set up another address at Hotmail.com to get my MB mail. Also, I have MSN messenger service and Yahoo Messenger Service...Hummingbird (and others I will not mention because I did not ask their permission ) talk back and forth on IM or e-mail a lot. It is helpful....she was hoping to talk with you too because we think you are much further along in the process than we are. I know Humm. helps me because she is further along than I am.<P>Well, I don't want you to do anything you are not comfortable with....heaven forbid!!! My husband does not touch the computer...doesn't even know my screen name Do you have your own AOL account or a shared one? If you can figure out anything let me know!<P>PS...can you tell me approximately where you are? I wondered if you were even in the same time zone. I am in the SE section of the US.

Bonny, hey -- you can set up an email account in Yahoo. I've heard it's pretty easy. And it's free. If you go to <A HREF="http://www.yahoo.com" TARGET=_blank>www.yahoo.com</A> there's a link on the top left of the page that says "Yahoo! Mail".<P>I think infoseek and other websites like that offer free anonymous email services too. My wife signed up for one but I don't remember the website name. There are lots out there.<P>--andy<P>P.S. -- Bonny you are right about why I don't post much anymore. I've made some good friends and helped some folks here, but I also at times feel unwelcome, and sometimes I'm treated like a child. I was personally attacked on the last thread I got involved in. I'm sure the person who responded thought she was helping, and it didn't bother me that much... but no-one gets what I'm trying to say 'cept you guys.

Just a question to you on your concerns. I say the following not as an attack but just a thought. I was betrayed but in the circumstances if I was told by my wife that, yes we are working things out and it is hard.<P>Would you mind me emailing others that may be able to help us in our situation? I would think that it was fine. But if I happened to come across something that was trying to be kept secret, even if it was helping I would feel like something is going on.<P>Something about secrets brings out the worst in people. It doesn't involve the content but the thought that maybe they don't trust me.<P>Just a thought, I think that talking to others is necessary as long as the content is appropriate.<P>J

I would like to be included if you don't mind? I feel the same way at times.... There is also "Talk City" that we can go into and make our own chat room. Everyone who has internet access can get in there and it is free. There is also free E mail included there... I swear if it weren't only 10 am, I would be drinking already... Well... that and the fact that there is nothing here to drink! OM has been giving me an extreme amount of grief today!!! Haven't stopped crying all morning... <P>If you would rather I don't join... just let me know.... I will understand....<p>[This message has been edited by Lacee (edited January 14, 2000).]

Hi Guys,<P>I will work on this, work something out. I also live in the SE part of the country.<P>Simply J-I am not sure I followed your message??

Lacee,<P>Hang in there. You are trying to anethsitize the pain. It will get better, I promise.

Thanks Bonny... I am trying so hard to hang in there. I still need a drink though ( I know... not a good idea! ) And yes I guess I am looking to numb everything right now... Hopefully, I am going to get away this weekend for a night... I really need it.... Thanks for the encouragement...