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Need advise on this letter. He's back he's committed but I have to know...<P>I tried to tell you that I felt threatened by the way she was acting, by her coming to the house, and calling. I tried telling you that I felt threatened by you spending so much time with her, and by the way you were acting towards her. When it gets right down to it, you were interested in her and you didn't care how I felt. Nothing I said mattered because you weren't listening. What was I supposed to do? She is our D's BF's mom. I wanted to tell her to carry her a**. I wanted to kick her a**! But most of all I wanted you to admit to yourself what was going on and WAKE UP!<P>You're probably right I probably didn't say anything at the birthday party about how I felt. I'm pretty sure that I had given up by then. I had been trying to tell you for months, and all you would say is that she wasn't doing anything. She did do something to get your attention or you wouldn't have done it<P>Right now I feel like if I don't find out what I could have done, or what I can do in the future, I won't be able to live with it. I feel that my life has spun out of control. Someone slipped in and took it all away and I couldn't stop it. I have to find a way to feel like I have gotten it back. <P>Now after everything has happened, you still say she didn't do anything…<P>

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IM KINDA CONFUSED [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Your Husband had an affair with your daughters boufriends Mom. He tried to break it off and they kept in some sort of contact.<P>It sounds like u want him back , but aren't very trustworthy as of yet.<P>That is understandable. Does your husband know about this site, and does he understand your feelings?<BR>Maybe get him to read some of Harley's material to understand where he was and where you are andd how together you can reach where you wanna go!

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NotQuiteOverIt,<P>This letter... to be honest... is not quite what the forum really recommends..<P>In fact... it would be considered a big-time <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Buster</A>!<P>We always recommend that you start on <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>... and it's first and foremost premise is to <B>NOT</B> do any <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Busters</A>!!!<P>Please don't send this letter...<P>To understand <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A> click <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>HERE</A>!<P>I have also posted a draft on some of the implications/mechanics of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A> and it was moved into the Infidelity archive... click on <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Archives/Archive-000001/HTML/20000110-1-011323.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101</A>.<P>Please, again... don't send this letter!<P>Jim

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I feel sure that I have not said enough to explain my situation. I have resolved most of my problem with this, I talked to my H on the phone. (He has not left, he is away on business.)<P>He told me to do what I feel like I need to do. If I feel like I need to kick some butt, go right ahead! [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Thank you so much for your time. I'm afraid that most of my problem today has been hormones. I wish I would have realized it sooner!<P>Sorry for the ramblings! [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]

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NotQuiteOverIt,<P>Catch the proverbial breath... [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Tomorrow will be a new day...<P>Keep the mantra going...<BR>No <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Busters</A>...<BR>No <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Busters</A>...<BR>No <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Busters</A>...<BR>No <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Busters</A>...<P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>... all the way...<P>Isn't there a song like this... [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Jim


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