I think I'm entering the last stages,if not the LAST stage of withdrawl! It's getting easier and easier to go to my H first, to touch him and want him, to look into his face. There are still very difficult moments, but he's really trying too. Yesterday he brought me flowers and a silly Scooby Doo keychain (I LOVE Scooby, I have great danes at home!) and today he brought me a plum tea and a piece of fudge... just because. He called before he came by my job, which I asked him to do, and he came home from work a bit early last night (don't tell the boss!) so we could be together. There was a bit of love busting this morning, but he apologized (it was one of those times when I was honest in my communication and he threw it back in my face... but HE APOLOGIZED <SNIF> ) Finally, I feel a sense of hope that we can do this! One for each of our teenagers!!

NB -<P>This is absolutely wonderful!!!<P>I'm so happy that you two are so close to reaching the light at the end of this tunnel.....<P>It's my goal and you two are an inspiration that it can be achieved!!<P>My thoughts and prayers for a long, healthy and happy married life for you both!!!<P>Hugs,<P>Sheba

New B, I am so happy for you. This will get easier and easier for both of you. Sometimes we all lovebust a little, but the apology right afterward is great. I'm happy that the "ride" is over. Now you can get your feet planted on the ground with your H again. (3 big smiles from your teenagers)

NB,<P>Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful news!!! I told you, give it TIME and things will continually improve. Your H sounds like he really wants things to work. That is such a blessing. Dontcha just love those "just because" gifts? I do.<P>I'm pulling for you guys!!<P>------------------<BR>Love is meant to heal. Love is meant to renew. Love is meant to oust all fear. Love is meant to harmonize differences. Love is meant to bring us closer to God.

hi new-beginning<BR>can I catch up and ask how long its been since the affair ended and how it ended?<BR>Im glad things are working out for the two of you!

Congrats!<P>Keep up the good work. We all like to hear positive info like this - it gives us all hope!!!<P>------------------<BR>H

hey b<P>The affair lasted three months from the moment that the OM told me he "loved" me (which actually meant that he wanted to bed me, but I digress)and it ended three months ago. I have to work with the OM, so that makes things especially tough. I ended it... although thinking back what I did made the OM end it... here's how it went... my H asked, and I told him about the affair about three weeks in. My H moved out three weeks later and I pushed the OM against the wall. He isn't married but in a long term relationship (which is just as bad, really). Anyway, I told him leave her or me. He cried, begged me to give him time. I gave him about 4-6 weeks total. In the real world, I would have given him more time, but in affair-world I realized that the whole thing was stupid. I told him to forget it, I was going to work on my marriage. It's been very, very hard. I've also been betrayed (12 yrs. ago) and I know how "nuts" the betrayed feels, but my H was downright scary for awhile. He's taken a sudden turn for the repair of our marriage. He's been home for many weeks and we are together. It has been a struggle. Each day gets better and better.<P>Does that answer your questions??

Sounds like your H really loves and wants you!!