well I sent my H a email last night suggesting I come for a visit...well he replyed...<P>he said no...to quit asking that nothing was ever going to change....now what?<P>amanda<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever" <BR>thevancefamily@hotmail.com<P><BR>

Big hug... There seems to be alot of pain but i always seem to forget that its gonna take a bit of time, although I would rather it happened over night.<P>Hang in there <P>j<P>

{{{{{{{{{{<B>Amanda</B>}}}}}}}}}},<P>I know where you're at...<P>Catch your breath... <P>Get busy with something... preferrable constructive...<P>Take time to read one of the Harley books...<BR>or some of the other ones the MB members recommend...<A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/010158.html" TARGET=_blank>Books... books... books... (again)</A><P>Your hate (I sure you're at that level now) has to be transplanted... (not easy)<P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A> <B>is hard</B>.... (How many times have I said that)...<P>Vent some more...<P>Remind others of your situation... so more suggestions can come your way!<P>And don't forget <B>Plan P</B>!<BR>This has carried <B>me</B> the most! <P>Jim

Sorry!!! I know bad it feels to have someone you love so much tell you to 'quit'. Hang in there. I'll keep you in my prayers. (((HUGS)))

I've been told to "quit" a bunch. I'm so sorry, I know how it feels.<P>MAKE yourself do something. Anything. And remember we're here.<P>Lori

SO SORRY Amanda.... I wish I could knock some sense in his head for you..... You're in my prayers.<BR><P>------------------<BR>"If you can learn from the mistakes of others, you won't have to make them youself."

Avance<P>Don't despaire and don't give up!<P>I think I heard just about every dirogatorie comment from my H right after he left the first and second times.<P>"It's all your fault, get a lawyer, I'll never come back," yada yada yada.<P>My H also said nothing would ever change.<P>This is the same man that dropped off 3 long stemmed roses (one for each of his girls, that being our two daughters and myself) tonight and arrived and left by planting a big kiss on my lips. <P>When he called, before he stopped by, he told me he had a much better week because I was so supportive and it made him feel so good to talk to me this entire week. He also said there is indeed light at the end of the tunnel for us and even though it seemed to only be a dim light so far it was getting brighter day by day. He wanted to drop off some extra cash to make sure I had sufficent money to attend our daughters cheerleading regional tomorrow and made a pit stop at Dunkin Donuts so we'd have a special treat in the AM. As for the roses.. no explanation was needed. I just couldn't help but wonder if there was an extra one in his car for the OW. But I didn't love bust and ask or walk hin out tho the car so I could take a peek <P>I'm still plan Aing and keeping my ......<P><BR>Fingers Crossed<BR>(who again says DON"T GIVE UP)<P>

thanks everyone...I am trying to be strong but it is so dam hard.....<P>amanda<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever" <BR>thevancefamily@hotmail.com<P><BR>