...for your kind replies. To answer some of your questions: Yes, my husband is in love with me. I was the betrayer. The other man lives about 2 hours from me, he's 19 years older than me. So, no, I do not see him everyday. He just had this 'power' over me. He supplied a lot of needs that my husband didn't. Not just sexual, but, the 'excitement' in life. He is very wealthy, and took me on expensive trips, etc. It wasn't the money that I was attracted to, it was his personality in that he could give me new things to do. Of course, I realize that my husband does not have the means and opportunity to give me those things, but if my husband would just 'perk up' a little bit and take me out more. Have friends over more. That sort of thing. And, he is doing that now! He is trying. I want to 'fall in love' with my husband. But for now, I love him as a friend. He is a great father. He is stable. He's very good to me. I just want to fall in love with him. Yes, I have chosen to give up the 'glamour world' with OM to have a godly, peaceful life....It will be difficult though, the OM does not want to let me go. Keep on praying! THANK YOU!

Danielle,<P>Just a quick question. Have you written a letter of no contact yet?<BR>That is one of the steps in ending an affair. It may help you with the 'closure' part of it. It will also help your husband know that your marriage is where you want to be. <BR>Tell your OM in a way that will never leave a question in his mind about whether or not you will ever be interested in him again. After this letter is sent NEVER contact him again, this will only lead him on and make the withdrawal harder for you.<BR>I hope this helps a little.<P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole<P><BR>

danielle - I'm so proud of what you're doing. The "no-contact" letter that Nicole suggested is a great idea.<P>Your husband is doing a good job right now too. Please don't get discouraged if this ebbs a bit, he is trying to save your marriage with you, but at some point, his pain will HAVE to emerge. Don't give up then.<P>You have a great attitude about falling "in love" w/ your h again. You can do it, too. It takes work, a lot of effort besides not seeing OM. YOU can make your life w/ your H exciting and wonderful. Start working on that. The two of you working together - there's NOTHING you can't do!!!!<P>Keep it up, Danielle. We're all pulling for you.<P>Lori

You are most welcome.... stick around here... There are so many with great advice... you have already been talking with some of them.... <P>You do have to get that No contact letter out.. then you will have a foundation to move forward on. Hang in there!<P>Good luck to you and I will keep checking your posts...

Danielle1313,<P>If you don't have the book <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6070_sa.html" TARGET=_blank>"Surviving An Affair"</A> yet... e-mail me... I'll send you a sample "no contact" letter. imherczeg@yahoo.com <P>Jim