Ok I should know better. I got and am reading Dr Harley's book SAA and Secret Lies. But I am having a really tough time not LBing and here's why.......<P>Things keep falling into my lap. I'm not looking to catch him in lies (lord knows what I would find if I was actually digging)but three lies landed in my lap yesterday.<P>Lie #1 He got a knew wireless service. Told me it was the same as my service so we could eventually all be on a family plan. I got a notice from the provider at my home letting him know his service had a # added to it. So naturally I called the people to see what was up. He is on the family plan and guess who's # is on it with him? Yep, the other OW's. And it was added at the time the service began, last week, not added as an after thought. Am I POed? You bet I am. The only reason I didn't hit him with this today is if they sent the notice here they will most likely send the bill here (the billing cycle ended Fri so the bill should be here soon) and then I will have undeniable evidence of a bold face lie.<P>Lie#2 Recieved a notice from our dental insurance. He went to the dentist. But not any dentist, the OW"s dentist. Don't ask me how I know this... I know more about her than her own Mother does. I asked him today who this dentist is. He said it was just one he stopped at on his way to work. Well, this dentist is NOT in his path on his way to work infact it is way out of his way. And I KNOW this is her dentist.<P>Lie#3 He rented a truck to move his tools form his old place of business to his new one. He had told me OW had offered to get her brother's trucking company to lend him a truck for the move, but he had refused as he wants her to have nothing to do with the new company. Well the truck rental place sent a reciept to our home. He paid for the truck rental with a Visa. He has no Visa. He has no credit cards. And Goodwill wouldn't extend credit to him at this point for a pair of used socks. But she had put him on all her credit cards. So my guess is this is a credit card of hers.<P>I am so mad! Three lies in one day were uncovered.<P>The only thing that kept me from LBing all over the place is when he took off his sweatshirt to do some work around my house today I accidently (wink wink) planted my lips, with bright pink lipstick on them, on the back of his clean white undershirt as I handed him a wrench. The thought of the look on her face when she does that load of laundry got me through the day. This ought to be pretty hard for him to explain seeing as he tells her he never steps foot in our home and never sees me. And no way would one of our teenaged daughters wear lipstick this color and she has to realize this as she has a daughter herself.<P>So here I sit being wooed by my H. Flowers, I Loves You's, you name it. At the same time I am being lied to by him. <P>If I bring any of this up to him I am LBimg. If I don't I just might loose my mind.<P>I'm beginning to think he is saying the right things to either <P>a) buy hinself time to decided who he wants<P>or<P>b) using this to stall me from my threatened move of 2000 miles away.<P>I don't know what to do.<P>I want to believe the wonderful things he is telling me. But how can I when he continues to lie. <P>Why can't he just tell me the truth?<P>I'm just about at the end of my rope.<P>He could tell something was wrong today and when he asked I told him it was a bad headache. He was as sweet as could be. Again he was becoming very passionate and thank goodness our 14 year old daughter kept popping up or he might have gone in for the kill and I really wasn't in the mood after finding these three new lies.<P>So do I just ignore these lies? If this is what I need to do, then how do I do this without exploding into a bazillion little pieces?<P>I need some help here.<P>TIA<P>FC<P>

Please read my reply to Swttmy's post The sage continues.....I need advice. I don't know how you can contain myself- I don't know if I could but wait to confront until you get more info and think about what you want. At some point, you may have to confront. Gather your information.<P>Good luck.<P>Melissa