please read now- emergency

<small>[ January 24, 2005, 12:38 PM: Message edited by: hanora ]</small>

scroll down the page for the latest- I have been so upset all day that I messed up. Let me know if you get it. I'll check in a few ...thanks<P>------------------<BR>Sad MOM<BR>

<small>[ January 24, 2005, 12:39 PM: Message edited by: hanora ]</small>

It is on page three as of now- "help"<BR>thanks!!!<P>------------------<BR>Sad MOM<BR>

don't see anything either! Can you just explain here and now!

It was the one above this one....<P>Been separated for awhile but still seeing each other 5 days a week- he seems to be afraid of himself- too close-scared, whatever- got back at Christmas with the most endearing card of love and praise for my unconditional love and patience...etc...<BR>Beautiful time for our entire family...4 kids -baby is 3....<P><BR>Along came an email which was questionable- could have been taken any way. Nothing to it- he befriended her a long time ago-<P>Split us fora day or so- this was not God's intervention but Satan's....I snooped at something which may be innocent- The person who sent it seemed to be unstable from what we read and she continues to write- he says he is not answering her.hoping she will get the hint. She will be in our area soon.....<P>Naturally I need reaffirmation and more on his part at this time- my perception is that I am not getting it, we are close, loving <BR>caring he is still close to moving in full time ...etc. The latest problem is that he thinks I snooped into his case and he is livid.says I need help. etc....Even tho he is MAD he has put a contract on a house which he loves....this is too hard to go into but I think he has trust issues from childhood and a "look but don't touch thing" with women.....I know who he is and I love him and this is a first for him--the intimacy thing. I really don't think he is out playing but the fact that he does not like for me to snoop makes me think something is up- I have no other evidence and don't want to create one....<P>I should have never looked at the email.<P>However I am resolved not to submit to confusion and hysteria. God is Intervening and hopefully he will come home and forget and forgive.....why would he be trying to buy this house???????<P>------------------<BR>Sad MOM<BR>

Sad Mom,<BR>please settle yourself down... and read my reply to your other post.<P>It's time you develop a plan instead of simply reacting to everything that is happening to you. <P>Very early on, before a really became familier with Plan A (sorry Harley) I booked myself some time with Harley. What did he do for me in short amount of time.<P>1. Helped me to regain focus on doing the "right things" for my marriage.<P>2. Gave me the OK, (we're trained to do otherwise) to not confront about suspicious behaviors.<P>3. Encouraged me to NOT BECOME A SNOOP AND UNCOVER STUFF I WAS NOT YET PREPARED TO DEAL WITH.<P>4. Gave me the feeling of HOPE.<P>So....please try to settle down and most importantly, slow down. You have kids and you know how everything is monumental???? Well, as an adult, you realize that few Momumental things happen quickly. <P>-Tina <P>-Tina