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One of the main arguments that my W and OM have is that he dosent want her around me, but that is not possible we have 3 little girl's, unless I put plan B into effect then <BR>he is getting exactly what he wants. what to do?<BR>Thanks<BR>gman
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Plan B is used when the betrayer isn't willing to give up the lover. If you implement Plan B she may see that her lover can not meet most of her emotional needs and therefore be willing to give him up.<P>I feel this is a more painful route and I hope she will chose to give him up without it. The pressure the OM is putting on her could very well be a lovebuster for her. He may actually be helping the situation by his selfish demands.<BR>
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gman,<P>On the contrary...<P>While you stay in a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>... you are maximizing the amount of contact you can have with your W... That will drive the OM nuts... and hopefully make their(W and OW) argue more.<P>Once you move to <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A>... you eliminate almost all contact with your W. When you go to <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A>...The OM gets some of what he wants... (less contact between you and your W)... and the flip side... he'll have to meet all of your W's <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3300_needs.html" TARGET=_blank>Emotional Needs</A>!<P>Again... don't rush <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A>.<P>Check out <B>again</B> my 2 posts...<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Archives/Archive-000001/HTML/20000110-1-011323.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Archives/Archive-000001/HTML/20000110-1-011046.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B -101</A>.<P>Jim
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