Yes...<P>Do everything to protect yourself...<P>You are not alone... see <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/012008.html" TARGET=_blank>Aonther week starting, need strength</A> by cryinginside&out.<P>Jim

There is definately a police report with her involved. The shooter got sentenced to 20 yrs in prison for shooting the other guy. The guy didn't die, thank God. And all of this because she dates several men at one time. And yes she does do drugs and also sells. Isn't it wonderful that my H chose her over me for the time being??<BR>I believe I will visit Radio Shack also tomorrow. After I visit the police. Thanks for all of the advice.

I know you have already decided, but I, as a dad, gotta nag nag nag anyways....<BR>You MUST go to the police. LB be damned... Some one has threatened you and your children?... You have a responsability now to deal with this in the harshest manner possible- if your husband has a prob with that... grrr... I'm not even going to GO there... <BR>Please let us know what happened...<BR>We also have had to deal with a psycho in our time, and bought one of those hand help recorders with a special hook up for the phone line.... the whole thing cost less than $100. Less, i think, than a new answering machine.<BR>ok, I'm so angry now I'm going to stomp around for a bit.... please keep us updated!<BR>Deut

Why do they always seem to pick the ones who have lost their minds! Is he still with her? I'm guessing no or she wouldn't be doing something so desperate. Let him know what she is doing! "I'm scared that she is going to try to hurt the children." Get him behind you to protect the kids. But don't be surprised at "She's not going to do anything, she's just talking." He will either help you or you will not need to worry about LB's.<P>GET A RECORDER!!! It is time for the gloves to come off! Record all of her calls. Let her run herself into a ditch! (That would be a B**** Ditch ) Don't take any chances with your kids. I personally would let her know to run her mouth all she wants, but if she threatens your kids again, she will wake up to find herself dead as a hammer! Turn off the recorder before you say that!<P>I also live in a small town. I would go and talk to the town Marshall, chances are he is VERY familiar with her. The town trash always stands out! If he is anything like the town Marshall here, he can give you a lot of help. He can also keep an eye on her. If the town is as small as mine, he has probably gotten wind of it already. I would also go to the school and talk with the principle and let her/him know that there is a situation, and you need for them to keep their eyes open. It may not necessary but it would be better than waiting until it is.<P>Be strong we are with you!<BR>

He is still with her and she's the type who likes to gloat. Ya know, shove it in your face. <BR>I talked to a police officer here and he said yes to filing a report. I'm having a hard time getting there today. It's snowing and I have 3 sick kids. I told him I would be there as soon as I could. I think this is all ridiculous! What a piece of sh*t! I'm sorry but the more I think of this the madder I get! She has invaded my home, my marriage, my privacy, everything. It sucks!! <BR>I am prepared to hear something dumb come out of H's mouth. I think he will defend her. My God these are his kids!! I won't repeat here the names she called my kids! It takes a pretty pathetic person to say stuff like that about kids she doesn't even know!! And now she never will!! <BR>I'm afraid I'm gonna lose my cool when I talk to him. Especially if he defends her. I'm ready to tell him that until he gets away from trash like her, he will have no contact with the kids. The situation is just too outta control!!

Don't worry about him! You worry about yourself! You are going to have to take control of your life and your family's safety. If he doesn't care or believe you then you don't need him, and neither do your kids. Not right now anyway. He personally has put you in this situation. Can the policeman come to your house?<P>It sounds like your H is just a game to her, like getting to you makes her special. He isn't the prize, getting to you is. (I've been through this one) It's probably easy for me to say this but I would take that game from her. Don't let her gloat, tell her she can have him. If he wants trash like her you don't want him. Tell her that you don't want the STD's that she has been giving him. Etc. Really let her have it! You don't have to believe it just say it. Use a new one every time she calls. Above all keep your cool you can think clearer about what to say. (I know I would want to meet her along the road and tell her if she calls my house again I will snatch her hair out) Save that for a last resort! <BR>

That's exactly why I am venting here! I want to get it all out before I talk to him tonight or if she calls again.<BR>I never thought of asking the officer to come to the house. Something to consider. <BR>I want to be able to think clearer so I can say what I need to say, if anything. Having caller ID I don't have to answer her calls. She has him and yet calls and threatens me. Talk about insecure.<BR>My MIL was shocked! <BR>I don't know. I'm just rambling. Vent, vent, vent....

Here, let me help!<P>!! AAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGG !!<BR>*%$#%$$#%^^%$#%^&*(*&^%$%^&***&^%