It has been a while since I've posted. I've replied to some posts and my wife and I have read many.<P> Without mentioning names, it really hits home with us when we read posts from this forum that relive what we have already gone through.<P> We build walls between each other or around ourselves when we don't communicate. I don't guess I ever knew how or either didn't feel the need to do so. I always thought my wife knew how I felt and I knew how she felt, but we didn't. We pushed each other away so many times.<P> I spent more time with my friends in bars and she with work and professional duties. Guess what happened to our relationship.<P> We thank God every day that He gave us the wisdom and heart to forgive each other and focus on the life He intended for us to live from the beginning. It isn't easy, but the closeness we have for each other makes all the struggle worthwhile.<P> We have to be so careful to fill each other's needs and protect each other from any hurt we may cause each other. Now that wall around the both of us is so delicate (like the membrane inside an egg shell) that we need to be so careful not to break it.<P> This forum has been such a backbone for me and I rely on the support I get from it whether directly or indirectly.<P> If we keep praying and trying together and praying and trying together and praying and trying together and praying and trying together we will make it. It feels soooooooooooooooo good to have what we have for each other today and it makes up for the times when we feel so bad. We love each other very much.<P>____________________________________________<P>It's the little things we do for each other that mean so much!<p>[This message has been edited by CRC (edited January 18, 2000).]

I'm sure I'm misreading what you menat when you said the walls are delicate and you must be careful not to break them...I would think one would want to break down any walls between them and their spouse...not only break them but shatter them!<P>I would love to get to the point when my W and I can completely trust each other and there be no walls. Harley states that a truly happy marriage (or a safe marraige) has no complete trust, but on this one...I'm hoping he's wrong. <P>Good Luck and God Bless<P>------------------<BR>1Co:2:4: And my speech and my preaching was not with enticing words of man's wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power:<BR>1Co:2:5: That your faith should not stand in the wisdom of men, but in the power of God.<P><BR>

Paul:<P> The wall I refer to now is "around us" not between us. I don't know if we can ever completely trust ourselves let alone each other. We must avoid any situation that would allow us in a moment of weakness to compromise our relationship. We must know our weaknesses first and know them well and avoid them like the plague.<P> God did not make us perfect, but He did give us the knowledge and wisdom to know right from wrong. We now just need to know how to make that knowledge and wisdom work for our relationships and avoid those temptations that could destroy what He has given us. Thank heavens He gave us another chance.<BR>_____________________________________________<P>It's the little things we do for each other that mean so much!