i have been married for 5 years and been with my husband for 7 years.. we have had a lot of problems in our marrige but the biggest one we are having problems over coming is the fact that he works 7 days a week and is on call 24 hours a day generally he is gone 16 hours and when he does take a night off he does things only for himself or just goes to sleep. we have a 4 year old son who misses him greatly but everytime i ask him for some time together or i complain it just turns into a big argument and im always the one in the wrong in his eyes im so lonely and have tried everything that i know to get him to listen to me and come up with some kind of agreement that we can both accept and be happy with but he doesn't want to listen or have any part of it he says that i want and expect to much from him i don't know what else to do and don't know how much longer we can last like this.. if you have any advise i would appreciate it.
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Chrissy, I would just write him a long letter and explain exactly how I felt. Try to do it without being judgmental, just tell him that you and your son miss him and would really like to spend some time with him. Pour out your feelings. Tell him you don't know how much longer you can go on. Then let him read it and have some time to digest it before you talk it over. Maybe if he has some time to think about it, and doesn't feel he has to defend himself verbally, he'll realize what he's missing and possibly come up with a compromise.