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First, Thanks Steve. Because My wife and I struggling through a seperation and our marriage of 23 years is in jeopardy, I need some advice on how to convince my wife to go with me to see a marriage counselor. She says she doesn't want a divorce but she refuses to seek help. She left me after her self-help group convinced her she couldn't stay clean if she stayed with me and our children. I have two, she took the youngest. We have been clean for over three years. Can anyone give me some advice, I am at a loss.
<br>Thanx, John
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my best advice would be to ask your wife to attend the counselling sessions with you for YOUR sake - to help you get through.
<br>You don't indicatein any way why she refuses the counselling but it may be because she feels she may be asked to change a position she is not willing to change or to confron some of her own problems. To force her to attend under any condition other than to help you through this process would be risking that she become even more firmly entrenched in her current stance.
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Ginny, Thank you for your response. I think you are right as far as why my wife won't go to counseling. I think also that she will be told that she is wrong in listening to people telling her that she can't stay married to someone she used drugs with. We have both been clean now for over three years. She insists that she doesn't want a divorce, and she insists that she isn't interested in anyone else. Her sponsor, who doesn't know me,has convinced her that she is the only person that matters, and that even if she has to leave her children, which she did, then that is what she has to do. Now, she says that we can't afford counseling and I am doing my best to find a way to pay for it. Thanx Ginny, John
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