<br>Hello Everyone
<p>I have been maried for 6 years to my wife and we have 2 kids 1 and 3. We are in the first stages of divorce, that I don't want/
<br>I found an E mail message to one of her girlfriends that she had found a apt. and was moving out that weekend, so I filed for divorce that same day out of anger.
<br>Now 2 weeks have gone by she has taken all the kids clothes and all her property.
<br> We have had many talks about what is going on and how hurt and sad we both are (I still love her very much and I know she still loves me )But there is no trust left of each other
<p>Now my question
<br>I told her how much I love her and want her back and she understands how I feel and she has told me she has built a wall around her to protect her from getting hurt again and that she needs time and space. I now have a ray of hope To prove myself to her how much I love her and I will never mislead or lie to her again. I no that we can work through this and she has agreed to see our counsler without me present to tell her side. she also informed me that she wants the divorce to go through even if things realy improve and we work it through this.
<br>I don't understand why she would want a divorce to be final and then continue to work on our marriage or remarrige

Jim,
<br>I too have a very similar story. After 23+ years of a wonderful marriage with 3 boys, my wife left me. We were co-dependent on drugs for many yearsbut we have been clean for 3 1/2 years. She has been convinced that she can't live with someone she used with. Her annonymous group sponsor has convinced her that she is the only person that matters. I now have two of the kids. She too said she wanted space to figure things out, soon she had her own apt., and she refuses to go to a marriage counselor. She also says that she doesn't want a divorce. But having been alone for over a year now I have told her that time is running out. I love my wife more than anything and I will hold out for as long as I can, try and do the same, but as far as I am concerned once divorced always dvorced. Once married always married. Hang in there. I have asked for help in convincing my wife to go to a mariage counselor, she refuses. John