I've only been married for a year but this has happenned to me more than I would like. Possibly this is a misunderstanding but it has been building up for quite some time even before we became married since we lived together for 2 years before the marriage. My husband laughs at me or makes light of whatever I may be angry about. I don't raise my voice but I tell him about things that may be bothering me in a calm way and he just laughs or makes a joke out of it...which makes me really angry and sometimes stupid for telling him in the first place. If it concerns a subject that he doesn't even want to talk about he doesn't even acknowledge I've said something...he just ignores me. <br>I've told him that I thought it disrespectful of him to not take me seriously but he just tells me,'whatever!' I'm an adult but he keeps treating me like a child.

SK,<br>Sounds as though someone has a maturity problem, or a lack of caring for your feelings. Part of being a couple is understanding the others problems, listening and trying to work through them. But to ignor them or to imply that thay are stupid is very callous. Maybe you need to voice your misgivings a little more strongly. Communication is the key in any relationship, and when one is not participating it can indeed be maddening.<p>John_98

Thank you John_98 for your intelligent reply to my dilemma. I will try harder and be a little more patient for my husband to grow up some. No matter, I know he still loves me very much and this is just the beginning.<br>

SK: He isn't treating you like a child, he's acting like one his self. My husband doesn't laugh at me, but he totally ignores me when I get upset about something. This infuriates me. (He's giving me the silent treatment which he saw his mother do his whole life.) <p>We've been married for 21 years and he has improved quite a bit over the years. I find that when I am extremely calm about something and speak to him in that manner and address the fact that I need some verbal response from him, that I usually get it. Getting more angry doesn't get me anywhere. <p>Good luck, Lisa <p>[This message has been edited by Ltaylor (edited 11-19-98).]