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Joined: Nov 1998
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My wife has told me our marriage of five years is over. She states she no longer has feelings for me. We have had problems with resolving conflict. She has been physically abusive to me......and I am guilty of "verbal abuse." I have pleaded with her to go to counseling with me....but she ABSOLUTELY refuses. She says she needs TIME and SPACE...........and I am committed to giving her this but, how do you work things out if you aren't together? I do not want to end my marriage to her...I love her and I just fear that she is holding back or is afraid of something that has happened in her past...and thats the reason she won't go to counseling.........Three weeks ago.....she was telling me I was everything to her....and NOW she has no feelings for me??? Can any one HELP me.......The pain is killing me!
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Joined: Apr 2000
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Sean,<p>I think it would be best to give your wife the time and space that she needs. You may have to grow apart for a while before you can grow close together again. It seems like your wife has things she needs to deal with. Remember that it is easy for the spouse that is wanting to keep the marriage together to be the one left feeling all the guilt and pain. You may be feeling like you have failed somehow. Be strong for yourself! keep focused. I can only really say "Give it to the Lord" take care of your buisness and let God take care of the rest! there is Hope.
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Dear Violet:<p>Thank you for your response and your wisdom. I know that what you say is the right thing to do..Its just so hard.........I have never Loved liked this before and even though we have had problems......."our Love" for eachother always seem to get us by....I wish so badly that we could go to counseluing together...but this site and especially this "forum" has been most helpful.<p>Again Thank you..........It is always in HIS hands!<p>Sean
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Sean: My son is in a similar situation to yours. His wife (5'1") physically assaults him (6'3" 260lbs). She needs some serious help. They have separated, and after six months she is begging him to come home promising to get some help. So, I think you should definitely gives her the space she is asking for. Perhaps that will make her realize what she'll be losing. Also, as you know, lots of prayer. Lisa
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