<br>I have been married for 8 years.We have 3 kids 7/m, 6/m, 3/f. I have alot of complaints about my husband. There has been a history of physical abuse. It hasn't happened for a couple years. After I left him and my Aunt called his mother (the only one with any apparent affect on him) and threatened to call his work and the military. We then went to marriage counseling (2 times). It seemed to work for a while... but, is always up and down. We will be ok for a couple of weeks then it all starts again. I am at my wits end. He is always gone hunting or fishing. I never get to do anything without the kids... and this is just fine with him. He is verbally abusive to me. Constantly telling my how stupid I am .. and calling me a b**** in front of the kids. I can never do anything right. I am not sure he can ever change. I have threatened many times to leave him.... this time I am serious. His recent threat is : If he doesn't have a bass boat in 1 1/2 years... I am out the door. He claims I contribute nothing to this household. I am a stay at home mom. I am doing daycare in our home.. going to college .. President of PTO at the kids elementary school, just starting my own business doing web pages and graphics,and teach Sunday school. Among many other activities. I am a clean fanatic... house is rarely ever a mess. He expects every meal to be cooked for him... and wants me to pack his lunches for work... Goshhhh... I could go on forever. I am not sure what to do at this point. I'm not sure my marriage can be saved. I feel the kids are suffering more by me staying then they would if I leave. He wants me to resign from PTO .... I just don't want to give in to him. I know I have alot going on ......but, I am happy being a busy person. Unlike him... he loves his recliner <grin>. We have grown so far apart... we have nothing in common except our kids. Which he is a good father .. when he isn' t throwing a tantrum. Any advice would be appreciated. <br>Am I in the wrong here?? I know it can't all be his fault... but, I am tired of kissing his feet and tip toeing around not knowing what is going to set him off.

Your situation sounds so very similar to my first marriage. That's a tough life to live.<br>You said you had gone to counseling a couple of times, is it possible that the two of you could go on a regular basis, like weekly at the least to give it really good shot. Is he willing to go? If not, geez, I feel badly for saying it, but, I'd leave him. You deserve some happiness too. Find someone who will treat you with some respect, kindness and appreciation. Life is too short. He sounds like a totally self-centered and very mean person. He definitely needs a Wake-Up call. Maybe a counselor could help him see what's going on and then maybe not, but see if he'll go and give it your best.<br>I wish you lots of luck and happiness !<p>Laura<br>