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#53623 12/11/98 01:50 AM
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my husband has left me 3 times in the 5 years we have been together for different reasons, one was that he loved me just not like a husband should love his wife, he said he was not attracted to me anymore, all times he came back but i am having a hard time forgiving and forgetting. He gets angry because have trust issues. i also hate having these trust issues, i love him very much and we have a wonderfull family i also know he does love me he just goes left and gets self absorbed every now and then, my mind knows this it is my heart thats does not care.

#53624 12/13/98 03:04 PM
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Dear Pamela,<br>What your husband is putting you through is not right. And it isn't your fault even if you have these trust issues. I don't blame you for having them. Its amazing you take him back. He needs help to recognize he has a family to be responsible for and shouldn't take you for granted. He also needs to remember why he fell in love with you. Do you have a Christian support group. Like a women's group at Church? Can you talk to your pastor? Hope you can find the support you need to make it through these trying times. Keep praying and trust Jesus.<br>Take care<br>Smitha

#53625 12/20/98 10:24 AM
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Dear Pamela,<br> I know exactly what you're going thru. I just had my H of 9 and a half years walk out the door yesterday. We're trying a 2 day separation, then he's requested that we get back together tonight, to talk about how we're both feeling. We've had many, many conversations about the fact that he feels like he doesn't have any feelings for me any more. We've talked about it in the past, but in the past two weeks, it's really become horrible.<br> Up until this point, i thought we had a really wonderful marriage. We communicate well, we share problems, we take walks together, we eat dinner together every night, we spend weekends together, and we've built our dreams together.<br> I recently wrote about it in the forum, and i received a really hopeful response from a lady named Janet, who has been thru something similar. I just wanted to wrtite to you to tell you to hang in there, and trust your own feelings. I do think people can fall out of love, and i want to believe that it's a fixable problem, but i, too, am living that experience right now, and i don't know what's going to happen to a marriage that i thought was perfect.<br> Take care, from Disillusioned


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