I am writing this in absolute desparation. I have a mother-in-law problem<br>> that is destroying our marriage to the point that I am planning to file for<br>> a divorce. I have left home once already - but it has had no impact. The<br>> problem continues.<br>><br>> My m-i-l lives with us and is totally dependant on my husband as she lost<br>> hers at an early age. He is the only son. She is extremely threatened by me<br>> and has done some really malicious stuff and totally undermines me in my own<br>> house!!<br>><br>> The problem is that my husband fuells her insecurities all the time and<br>> actually even takes the liberties of defending her against me even when<br>> she's wrong!! In fact, he even attacks me to justify her behaviour. He<br>> doesn't even think that my issues are big enough to warrant a confrontation<br>> with his mom and when he does, he approaches it in such a way that he makes<br>> it look like I am the bad one.<br>><br>> We've even sought counselling - but I don't believe my Husband is sincere in<br>> wanting to make this marriage work.<br>><br>> Please help.<br>