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Co-dependent/Love: How to tell the difference?
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Co-dependent/Love: Can you tell the difference?<p><br>I'm often not sure what I feel with my lady friend. We are considering marriage and seeking pre-marriage counseling.<p>One of my biggest concerns is I am simply co-dependent on this person and not actually in love. I know how I feel about my young nieces and I would consider this love, but with my lady friend I'm just not sure.<br>
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What is wrong with being dependent on the one you love to meet your needs. Nothing that is the way it should be. You depended on her and she you. Each others needs get met and both are happy.
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John,<p>As rusty points out, there's nothing at all wrong about being dependant on your spouse. <p>Unless you our your girlfriend is a substance abuser, the term "Co-dependancy" is completely, entirely inappropriate for your relationship. It's a legitimate term that has been gobbled up and mangled beyond recognition by the psychobabble practitioners; you should ignore it.<p>Dr. Harley has an article on co-dependency on the website here.
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John,<br>Do you do things just to make her happy? Do you live for making her happy and always sacfifice ?? It's okay to compromise sometimes, but real love is a partnership. Doesn't mean you don't have a rocky road now and then though(it makes you both stronger!)<br>Hope I helped.

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