I moved out of house last week, 8/20. H called that night, came over the next night to hook up washer & dryer and to hang some pictures. He came over Sunday night to bring me food from his mom's and stayed until about 11:30. He was somewhat affectionate that night.<P>Last evening I got home from work and saw on my caller id he had called several times. When he called, he asked if he could come over and wash his gym clothes. I said "oh...wondered why you called four times". He then said we could go out and have dinner while they dried. He brought the stuff over, we went out for dinner, came back and tried to call our son at school and watched some TV. I told him I didn't mind him visiting as often as he liked, but if he just was coming over because there was a washing machine here, to go find a laundry mat. As he got ready to leave, he started scratching my back, then kissing, then we ended up in the bedroom. Am I an idiot or what????? <P>We are planning a beach trip to visit son for family weekend. He asked if I would change room arrangements to a king size bed instead of two doubles.<P>The goal is to get back that loving feeling, but is this the right way? Sex has always been high on his "needs" list, so I feel like this is a good way to make those love deposits. BTW, he has been much more considerate of my "wants" the last couple of months.<P>ADVICE HERE??? !!!!<P>

Go for it! Make as many deposits into the bank as you can. Maybe the semi-separation keeps from making the withdrawals. <P>This sounds good, Janie.

My H & I made love almost as often separated as we do when he is at home. As long as it is what YOU want as well and you don't feel used, go for it.

I've decided if my needs get met, why not. I might be middle aged, but I'm far from dead!!!

Janie - I'd do it in a heartbeat. You're both getting needs met, staying close. Keep on getting closer!!!<P>Good Luck.<P>lori