I've been with my husband for 18 years. We had children and then got married right after my youngest was born. I had come into the relationship with a baby daughter who's father was killed. Over the years, it was very obvious that my daughter was not treated like my two sons. I stayed home with my children and picked up jobs that kept me working in the home. I've worked for 15 years out of the 18, full time in the home and recently in the past 4 years, part time out of my home. It was agreed between my husband and I that it was best for me to stay home because originally of the expense of someone taking care of 3 children and then later, the kids were involved with so many sports that a parent needed to be around . Now my second son is driving and life has slowed down a bit. My daughter has moved out, but my husbands attitude towards my daughter has not gotten better. He continues to critisize everything she does. I have lost so much respect for this man over the years. The jealousy he's felt towards my daughter has been so childish. It's been a battle over every issue concerning her. Last week he said to me she's a "dumb *****". I felt devastated and hurt and he then tells me I have "problems", and can't let go of her! Then he goes in his little tantrum of telling me that the reason the marriage doesn't work is because of me. And then he makes it clear that I have not brought as much "money" to the table in this relationship and that I would not deserve 1/2 of what "he" has. He now says that "if women have children, they ought to think about it before having them, and be able to support them themselves instead of "hanging" on the man for support". I work two jobs, and still make about 1/2 of what my husband makes. Does that clearly state that I am not "equal" to him? Generally these horrible arguments start after he's had about 6 drinks that he thinks are "two", because he pours about 3 shots per drink. This is a everyday practice and so I tend to spend alot of time in my work room to not engage in these type of conversations. Sex has been difficult and he clearly is not happy about this. But I am emotionally drained after 18 years of being critisized, telling me everything is my fault, picking constantly on my daughter. Any suggestions on dealing with this "tyrant"?
