Yes, you do deserve another chance but that doesn't mean you'll get one. Your husband sounds like he has years of resentment built up and because you've been married 30 years, is thinking he'll be courteous during this breakup.<br>You don't really talk about fights or arguements that much but that's when you usually find out what your spouse is really thinking or feeling. I don't like fights but sometimes its better than no communication at all.<br>The part about having walls seems valid. As men, I believe we actually get rewarded in the business world by being hardened, "business is business"-type guys. Unfortunately, that doesn't work too well at home.<br>You and your husband need to learn how to forgive and forget. Easy to say but so hard to do.<br>Maybe he doesn't feel like he's been appreciated all these years and that's why he's resentful. Maybe he's feels you don't desire him like you used to --whatever the case, you do deserve a second, third, fourth, chance. Don't lose hope and by all means pray, what have you got to lose.<br>Personally, I'm skeptical of therapist and counselors. In order for them to be effective we have to have to agree to listen and try what they suggest. But I'm always concerned about whether I've gotten a bad one or not. I think the next counselor we see I'd like to find someway or someone that could verify how effective they've been. I would certainly try to check up on your current counselor. Don't give up hope.<br>By the way, I'm 38, been married 15 years, have three kids, and was told by my wife (again)last night that she really doesn't love me like she used to. I certainly don't feel it from her but I'm resentful because I'm now trapped by the family and the fact that I would do anything to protect my children from a divorce.