I also posted this in the "young marriages" section."<P>I am looking for opinoins and thoughts. I am not involved in any religion, and I don't want to read alot<BR> of books. <BR> I am recently married and already having a very hard time staying commited to my marriage. (I am<BR> not at all interested in having an affair, or seeking romantic or emotional support from someone else).<BR> In my life with my husband, I have ended up being responsible for everything, from making sure my<BR> husband gets up in the morning, to all housework, cooking, paying bills, car maitenence, etc... I also<BR> work full time and he works part time. I am sure I am being overly negative, but it seems like all he<BR> does is watch TV and make messes for me to clean up.<BR> We have tried to talk and talk about it, but all that happens is that I talk about how I feel, and he<BR> never says anything. (It seems that we don't talk with eachother, I just talk at him.) I always end up<BR> feeling like the victim. He has refused to go to counseling (together or seperately), read books, etc...<BR> (after all, he refuses to even talk about our relationship, what do I expect?) I have done the nag nag<BR> thing, the refusal to help him with his life anymore thing, the why bother to talk to you anymore thing,<BR> ... sigh... I am sure he has alot going on in his head, and he is probably clinically depressed, but<BR> there is nothing I can do but make things worse (it seems).<BR> Anyhow, as you can see, I feel sorry for myself, and I feel that I am in a position where I have to<BR> make a unilateral decision about our relationship. I really don't like being in yet another situation<BR> where everything is up to me. Anyhow, the conclusion I have come to is that the best thing would be<BR> for me get my own place, maybe in a few months, so I can have my life back, and let him sort his<BR> problems out.<BR> Should I tell him this now? I know it will make him very upset, and I certainly don't want to add more<BR> emotional nurturing to my job-list. I am already exhausted. But, this seems like the kind of thing I<BR> shouldn't just spring on him when the time is right for me.<BR> What do other people think? <BR>