My husband has the task of paying the household bills. I have some money every month for my own expenses. The problem is this: The first few years we were married we had some financial problems which have now been solved. We both have good jobs and have enough money to pay our bills. However, even though my husband has his own computer, good money management software and even an electronic bill paying service, he has been consistently late with paying the bills. The mortgage has been so late that we have gotten numerous phone calls and letter and the utilities have been shut off at least 3 times. I came home to a cold, dark house one night while my husband was in class. I spend 3 hours at the bookstore and we spend the night in a hotel. Two of my credit cards have been cancelled and I finally got myself a secured card for myself. Last week, I received a call at work telling me that one account (closed)was 5 months over due. The woman was very rude and but I wrote down the information she gave me. I told my husband and he said "I've already sent the money,so no big deal." <P>Our credit is bad. We could not get a loan or any help at this point unless we signed our life away. I have offered to help, but it isn't wanted. Everytime this happens, he is sorry and says he will take care of it. We are not kids; I'm 42 and he is 34, but my patience is running out.

Some people have an ability to manage money and some do not. If one spouse is having a problem with it then maybe the other should give it a try.<P>You are part of the marriage and I feel you deserve an explanation as to why this is happening.Many couples find that both sitting down together and deciding together what gets paid and what doesn't, and setting up a budget together works well.Notice how I used the word TOGETHER.It takes Two in a marriage.<P>Do you have a husband that feels he must control the money? Or does he control the money to control you?