I really need some advice. I have been married for almost 12 years. My husband is 21 years older than me. I was 26 when my stepdaughter came to live with us. I had a new 3 month old daughter at the time so as you can imagine I had my hands full at the time as my s-daughter was barely 13. Anyway, she is 19 now and I have given everything I have to teach her the right things, the responsibilities, etc. <BR>The other day, she informed me that she felt like she had been used for 6 years. She said this out of anger but it cut through me like a knife. She has little responsibilities in the home and can basically do what she pleases.<BR>My husband has given up on her because of the spoiled nature of this girl. I do not like this because I feel he still has a responsibility to her no matter how old she is. This has put a TREMENDOUS strain on our marriage. I feel as though I am going crazy and the anger is almost unbearable. I just want to get my two little ones and move far away. I just don't know what to do. I am at my wits end. I don't want my other children to be around this constant fighting. Has anyone been in a relationship with stepchildren? Any advice will be greatly appreciated! Thank you, Kim