I've been married to my wife for about 1 1/2 years. Ever since we have gotten married and moved in together we have had nothing but problems. We are currently seperated and living apart as a result of a fight that occured May 2. I was asked to leave because there are too many bad, hurtful, angry feelings while I am still there living in the house with her. During the seperation she still calls and talks to me on a regular basis. We have been going out, spending time together, and acting like everything is normal but when the subject of me coming back to the house comes up, she is still not emotionally ready. I have a problem with the daily contact, still doing my house hold chores, and financially supporting her (house payment) while I am not living there and I am staying in a place in which I do not want to be. I feel that she is content in the wat that things are because she is at peace in our house and she is having the best part of the relationship without wanting to experience the downside of things. The main reason we are in this situation is because I was not willing to communicate and express to her the things that made me upset and letting them mount up until I just blow my top. I really do not know what to do. We have been going to counceling for about three weeks now and it seems that we take a step back everytime we go. I want so much to show her that I am changing but it is really hard to do that when you are not in the same household. The time that she may need to completely heal may not be the time that I am willing to wait. I want my wife back but I do not know how long her healing process is going to take and is it fair for me to be helping out around the house and paying the house note in a place that I am not welcome and cannot live in. I would really appreciate any and all responces to my situation because I really do not know how long I can last. I really don't feel that the effort on my wifes part is the same as mine. If I totally withdraw form the situation, financially and dating, will this cause even more conflict and resentment. I feel that I am making the greatest sacrifice and that I am being emotionally left hung out to dry. Please help!!!<P>------------------<BR>confused
