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Does this make any sense?<P>I've been living on and off with my girlfriend for the last four years. We have set a wedding date and everything is in the works, but I am still not sure. We are going to a pre-marriage counselor next week.<P>I miss my girlfriend when I am away, but I'm not sure if this is simply a case of being without a woman or her or what? We have a few things in common, but not a lot. One person told me this is a case of thinking the grass is always greener on the other side.<BR>I feel love for my three nieces, my parents, but I just don't know what I feel for this woman. <P>Question: Did many of the participants feel totally in love before marriage?<P>How many had doubts which they wish they had listened to before their marriage?<P>How many are glad they overcame their reservation (or cold feet) and are happy with their decision.<P>P.s. The opposite can be true and thus I hope women would offer their insight as well.<P>
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If this woman is not your true desire in life, then I would say don't do it, or you may regret it down the road, and that hurts like hell.<P>I'm totally in love with my wife, we've been married for 6 years last month, now she wants it to be over ... says she doesn't love me like that anymore.<P>I wonder if she never wanted to in the first place.<P>Think it over man, it may save you and your girlfriend alot of pain down the road.<P>
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If you are not sure you want to marry your girlfriend, then you are NOT ready to be married. The pre marriage counselling might be your way to convey this to her. <BR>There is no need to rush into anything like that. Even if it means upsetting her right now. Explain how you feel to her, and let her know you love her enough to try to save both of you from the pain of divorce. Let her know your true feelings now.<BR>
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If you are second guessing yourself take a major step back and get your priorities straight as to if you are ready to marry and what it is that you want in a wife. I did not do that before I married my husband and have regretted and am having to find all that out now. I do love my husband but I am trying to figure out in what way do I love him, I wish I had someone to tell me to step back and think 6 years ago. We have been together for 10, married for 6 of those and life is not as grand as I always wanted it to be. I truly hope you find what you are looking for...<P>------------------<BR>Sincerely, Rosie
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