Ruby.. it really sounds to me like we are with the same person. I have been with my husband now for over 8 years. We have 3 children together, ages 7,5 & 4. As of June 11th, I left and got my own apartment, and would cut off my right arm if I thought it would get us back together. Since I have left things have only worsened. I am now in counciling and am beginning to realize that all of this is emotional abuse. I bet it you were asked, he has hit/pushed or physically put his hands on you at some point during the relationship. I would venture that every argument/fight is always your fault. He never accepts responsibility for any of his own actions much less apologizes for them. I am actually speaking about my own relationship, maybe this is not the same with yours at all, but it sure sounds like mine.<P>Sitting here reading yours, makes me glad that I have left. At least now I can block him from calling/and tell him to leave when he starts with the verbal abuse. AND IT IS ABUSE!!! He would deny it and say that you only act like a bi--h therefore it is ok to call you one. I hope you realize one day, that divorce may actually be beneficial to you. <BR>On that note.. I should heed my own advice.<P>I would love to keep my family together and make my marriage work, but for now, I am glad I do not have to listen to that anymore. Perhaps someday we will all remember to put into each other's love basket and not withdrawl from it. Those words hurt. <P>I survived my husband's one night stand, (if that's all it was) and the physical abuse (that I made him do), but the words live on and the pain they have caused me.<P>------------------<BR>"Despite Everything, I still believe people are basically good at heart" Anne Frank - "Diary of Anne Frank"<BR>
