Late last night, I was watching TV with my SO of over 4 years when he got a phone call; he sounded delighted to hear from (whomever) and I heard him say, "Nothing; just sitting on the couch watching TV; what are YOU doing?" (not "watching TV w/ my SO). They chatted animatedly for about 5 minutes (couldn't make out what they were saying), then he tells me he got off, saying he was "busy." Upon questioning, I learned that it was a single woman who lives nearby whom he'd recently met again at a high school reunion (I didn't attend). I was very hurt and angry, as it seems to me that if he were committed to our relationship, he would have met her obvious "approach" with the news that he's involved with someone (I recently responded to a similar show of interest from a man with the unequivocal news that I'm in a long-term relationship and not available). Upon further questioning, he revealed that when they "caught up" at the reunion, he told her he was "seeing someone, but we fight a lot lately." That's true, but this sort of thing isn't helping. Do I have reason to worry? <BR>

Hi quandry,<P>Just my opinion here... <P>I think what you have to worry about starts with the "seeing someone, but we fight a lot lately." part IMHO.<P>If you are worried about him paying attention or getting close to someone else, then fix the problems which are causing the fighting.<P>Check out all of the ways to improve a relationship on this website and then talk to your SO about them and see if he is willing to improve your relationship with some good old fashioned work. That is what it takes. <P>I can see where if he were to talk and see this woman more that she would end up giving him the love units which you should be giving him.<P>Talking to her is obviously a love buster for you and you are right to feel disturbed by it.<P>You both need to talk to each other and work on your relationship to make it work.<P>Was I blunt enough. Sorry. I just know how much the Harley's methods can help if couples would just work with them. My marriage is better because of their methods.<P>I hope things get better, post and let us know.<P>Hugs and prayers,<BR>Thoughtful<BR>