For six years I have been in a relationship. The first two years were fantastic but then the last four have been a gradual watering down of what we had originally. She now says that she loves me like a brother and has done so for a while. <BR>There has been very little intimacy or closeness for such a long time now and she feels she can't even kiss me or hold me now. I still love her very deeply and feel that she is my soul mate but I have ceased to be hers anymore.<BR>There has never been any wrongdoing between us and we rarely fight, I have tried many times to fix this problem of the brother sister thing but have been unsuccessful. She is becoming very tired of the discussions and says she feels dead inside. I have tried searching the net for answers and luckily found your page. <BR>Her parents have now said that once your love turns to brotherly love there is no way back and as such I'm destined to lose her. Obviously she now feels that we would never be able to work things out and has given up. <BR>Please, please, please has anyone an answer to this one. Obviously I selfishly want her to be in my life for I love her so much and it would devistate me to loose her but if for her sake she has to leave then I would rather it be that way than to hurt her constantly with a loveless relationship on her part.

I've been married for almost 18 years and I feel the same way about my husband. There were too many hurts to heal. I can't say what happened. It just accumulated over time. Sorry, but I don't think she'll be back.