Thanks, <BR>I know that my husband had made alot of irresponsible choices in his past. I knew that some things would eventually catch up to him.<BR>What is bothering me now, is 2 things. First, he has a debt chasing him for a student loan, that was from 1982. He tells me that he never went to school, and he knows nothing about it. So we sent letters of dispute, over the last 5 years. I get a copy of the P note, and there, is his signature, address, and SS# in his handwriting. He says, "That is not my signature! OK. I contact his ex, and ask her. She says, yes he did go to school, and didn't finish the program.<BR>Now the Dept. of Education is after him for more than $5000. and he still maintains he did not go,(that he doesn't remember) and it isn't his signature. But it is! and he did!<BR>He is hiding something about this and it is driving me nuts. Next, his ex, and him, had an arrangement for child support, (so I am told) and it was not going through the court system. He didn't keep records of any payment, until he met me, and I did it for him.<BR>You might remember my other situations with one of my stepsons, and the hell I went through with that, and now that he has gone back to his Mothers, she is now threatening to go to the court for more money. BUT. This is more complicated. He and his ex, divorced, just before the youngest was born. My H was an over-the -road trucker, and was never home, so even though he had divorced, he remained<BR>in the home, for 4 years after the birth of his youngest. He continued to contribute to the home, and meanwhile, she went to collect gov. aid, as a single parent. So that is fraud, and she could get in alot of trouble, for that.<BR>When my H intially went to pay support, through the court, they took thier fees, and she only got a third of what he had paid in. So he, decides,,,hell with it, I will pay directly, and never goes back. His name is in the system. He says that if she ever goes back to the courts, he will turn her in for fraud, and all of these years, she only has used the threat, when she wants money.<BR>He does send money to the kids, but not alot, and he would prefer to have his kids here. What he doesn't realize is that the courts still have his name in the system, and as soon as she goes to apply for any kind of assistance, it will appear that he is a total deadbeat Dad, and now I have learned, (not sure if this applies in that state) that even if he had paid directly, it would be considered a gift, and he will be in debt for 3 kids, for 12 years! I tell him, he HAS to figure out what to do, and he sits back and says...we will worry about it when it happens.<BR>I have been through hell and back with this man. I also helped him get past an IRS debt, for over $35,000 and it is now over. We have until this Monday to come up with the money for the student loan, or there will be a lein on my home. then who knows what will happen with the ex!<BR>Do you see what I mean? My husband is trying to be the mode husband now, but he just doesn't know how to handle any of this, and if he won't then I have to.<BR>Not that I am that educated either, just that I am motivated to save my home, credit, and sanity. There will little to no Christmas, for the kids this year, and my husband likes to sink any spare dollar, into his car! Also, one of my dearest friends works at the same place, with him, and she tells me that he acts like a child at work. He rants and raves, if things don't go right for him, and has the attitude: "I was looking for a job, when I found this one"<BR>ARGHHHH....How can he jepoardize his job like that, when he has put us in such a horrible financial position??? I am so stressed out! I have considered leaving, but I am financially dependant on him! HAH! Isn't that a kick in the butt? He does make good money and I only bring in about half of what he does...but we have a total of 5 kids, and a mortgage....<BR>My littlest one LOVES her Daddy, and my H is bending over backwards to please me, on a day to day basis. Can you picture my situation?
