MY HUSBAND AND I ARE NEWLY MARRIED. HERE LATELY ALLS I HEAR IS HOW HIS REQUIREMENTS ARE BEING FILLED. I HAVE TRIED TO HELP FILL THEM, BUT I CAN ONLY DO SO MUCH. ESPECIALLY WHEN MINE HAVE NEVER BEEN MET!!! I AM THE GIVER, AND I AM SO TIRED. <BR>FOR THE PAST FEW WEEKS, WE'VE BEEN FIGHTING OVER SUCH SMALL THINGS AND NONE OF THEM HAVE BEEN RESOLVED. NOW, HE WANTS TO GO RUN THE BARS WITH A BUNCH OF SINGLE GUYS, THAT HAVE NO RESPECT FOR ME OR OUR MARRIAGE. WHAT SHOULD I DO? <BR>I COULD GO OUT WITH THE GIRLS, BUT I HAVE NO USE FOR CLUBS, UNLESS MY HUSBAND IS THE ONE TAKING ME. TO ME, BARS AREN'T PLACES FOR MARRIED COUPLES TO BE GOING TO SINGLE, ESPECIALLY WHEN THERE ARE COMPLICATIONS IN THE MARRIAGE ALREADY. IS THAT WRONG? TO ME, IT'S TROUBLE. THIS ISN'T MY FIRST GO AROUND!<BR>I USED TO RESORT TO BARS WHEN I WAS SINGLE, CAUSE THAT'S WHERE ALL MY SINGLE FRIENDS HUNG OUT, BUT WHEN I GOT MARRIED, THOSE FRIENDS DISAPPEARED, IMAGINE THAT!<BR>WHAT SHOULD I DO? LET HIM GO FEEL HIS OATS OR THROW A FIT?<BR>ADVISE GREATLY APPRECIATED AND NEEDED AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, LIKE TODAY!<BR>THANKS.<BR>DEPRESSED WIFE..

Hi raymee,<P>Have you shared all of the information on this web site (i.e. basic concepts, etc.) with your husband? If so, what doe he say about it all.<P>Personally I agree with you about bars and running around with single friends (and I believe that Dr. Harley's concepts do too).<P>Anyone else with an opinion?<P>Hugz and prayers,<BR>Thoughtful<BR><P>------------------<BR>To save your marriage use Dr. Harley's methods at <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/" TARGET=_blank>www.marriagebuilders.com/</A> <BR>

THOUGHTFUL!!!<P>NO, I HAVEN'T DISCUSSED THIS SITE WITH MY HUSBAND. I MENTIONED IT THIS MORNING, BUT HE CLAIMS THAT HE DOES NOT NEED HELP THAT IT IS ALL ME AND THAT I WAS NEVER THIS WAY BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED. HE IS WRONG... WE HAVE ALWAYS FAUGHT ABOUT THIS. I HAVE TRIED TO EXPLAIN, BUT HE DOESN'T SEEM TO UNDERSTAND MY FEELINGS TOWARD THE WHOLE THING, NOR DOES HE WANT TO.<BR>I AM LOST, I LOVE HIM SO VERY MUCH, BUT IS ALL THIS HASSEL OVER HIS EMOTIONAL REQUIREMENTS WORTH ME BEING UNHAPPY? HE IS A QUALITY MANAGER FOR A FORTUNE 50 COMPANY. I THINK THAT HAS REALLY GONE TO HIS HEAD!!! HE IS ONE OF THE YOUNGEST MANAGERS IN HIS POSITION. YOU WOULD THINK THAT SOMEONE WHO STRIVES FOR QUALITY, WOULD WANT A QUALITY MARRIAGE. <BR>MY FEELINGS ARE THE LAST TO BE CONSIDERED. IT IS A "GIVE" "TAKE" RELATIONSHIP AND DOESN'T SEE IT. <BR>WHEN WE FIGHT, AND HE KNOWS IT IS HIS FAULT, HE TURNS IT ALL AROUND AND PUTS THE BLAME ON ME, HE CLAIMS I AM INSECURE! WELL, WHEN YOU DON'T EVER GET YOUR EMOTIONAL REQUIREMENTS MET, DOESN'T THAT TEND TO HAVE SOMETHING TO DO WITH YOUR LEVEL OF SECURITY?<BR>DEPRESSED WIFE!!