My husband tryed to have an affair in July which I put a stop to or else!He said he could talk to her in ways he couldn't with me and that they shared the same goals wants and needs I was like WHATEVER! Later it nagged at me so I left him which soon after he asked me back.I am now back with him at our new apartment.I have the understanding as humans that we cannot control what we dream while we are sleeping,this is all understandable.It starts to get humiliating though when you wake up to find your spouse acting out his dream,his body and a certain body(part)doing things they are not supposed to be doing followed by two sharp moans.Come to find out later he was dreaming about the woman he tryed to start an affair with and he said in the dream with her they were only dancing...YEAH RIGHT!!!!!.Most likely he is still thinking about her while he is awake and in turn is in his subconcious mind while he is asleep.When will I stop feeling second on his list,or how can I become first HIS WIFE on that list.I don't even know if I can sleep in the same bad with him knowing that he can have more dreams about her.I'll tell you what though,after that night I couldn't sleep for the rest of the night.<P>------------------<BR>MARY<P>[This message has been edited by starbryt (edited September 21, 1999).]<P>[This message has been edited by starbryt (edited September 23, 1999).]<p>[This message has been edited by starbryt (edited October 07, 1999).]