I'm going on the 7th week here and hurting. My husband just walked out one day. There is no OW. He has "fallen out of" love and feels he "lost his identity because he loved me too much". He adopted all of my opinions and needs as his own to try to make me happy. I did not ask for this, I would have preferred someone who expressed their individuality and I was frustrated also. He's left now, living with relatives about an hour away. He comes to see our 1 yr old son. I've asked for forgiveness for those things I realize I did. I've asked him to give our marriage a second chance - the things that hurt him are so easily workable. I've been reading the books and am working on things from my own side. He swears time will not change anything. He feels nothing, doesn't love me. Admits to strong physical attraction and has acted on it twice since he left but says it doesn't change anything, doesn't make him "feel" as he did. <P>What can I do??? He plans on spending Thanksgiving & Christmas out of state with his family - something he never wanted to do when we were married but blames me for now. Pushes me to let him take our 1 yr old but will not let me come with nor shorten his trips. Can I only sit & wait?? Be the loving wife when he's there but watch him walk out??? Is there anyone who can give me insight?? Are there any men on the forum who can understand this???<P>

Thanks for your response to my post. As you know I feel as you. Hang in there. In the past seven weeks I have done a few things to make myself feel better. I have joined a gym and go three times per week. I also joined a support group. The most helpful though has been reading the bible and praying. If your family and friends don't know, tell them. You need their support.