I am going to have our second child any day now after being on bed rest for three months. My husband has been distant, spendingg a lot of time with friends from work, and on the internet way too much. Today we finally talked about it honestly and he said he is looking for some "fun" becuase he does not love me like he used to. For the last months I have been trying so hard to make him happy, and now I know that I was jsut making him annoyed. He says it makes him feel guilty when I tell him I love him because he does not love me like I love him. He is happy it is out in the open now so he can stop pretending. How will I get through this and have a healthy baby? Why do I still love him so much?

Fridley,<BR>Your first step is to realize that it is not your responsibility to make your husband happy. Sometimes, no matter what you do, people are never satisfied. You are getting ready to bring a beautiful, perfect, brand new person into this world. The top priority is to make sure that this new little person has a wonderful life as long as he or she is in your care. How old are you and your husband? Old enough yet for some sort of mid-life crisis? Perhaps your husband is having a little doubt about the marriage brought on by the stress of a new child. If in reality he does not love you anymore, I want you to know that as long as you love yourself, everything will be okay. I know that it will be hard, nobody will try to convince you otherwise. However, everything in life somehow always works itself out. Take care of yourself and your babies. You sound like a caring person and what goes around, comes around. Sooner or later you will get back what you give. Good luck to you. Let us know how things work out.