My mother-in-law is like Dr.Jeckal and Mr.Hyde. She comes across very caring and meaningful to her own children. She tells my husband how wonderful I am and points out my good traits from time to time. She has even cared for me on my death bed but makes it known she wants something in return. She basically makes herself out to be an Angel. One minute you think she means well and the next you have to question all she is doing. She recently sent about 20 photo's of every girl my H dated to my house saying she was cleaning out her house. This really bothered me since she has many of his ex girlfiends working for her and is still friends with many of them. She also has brought around his family members that neither of us have spoken to in at least 2 years because of conflict. This occurs when I'm not around. She has gotten involved in two of her other childrens marriges, one leading to divorce and the other a CPS investigation. I have told her I question her intentions in my life. She of course tells me I'm wonderful but I eventually get attacked by another member of the family on differant issues. I know she is the backbone to all of this. She is a very controlling person. I was recently very ill and her and my H were making many of our family decisions. When I got better and started to take control of my life that is when most of the problems started. Confronting her only made me look like the bad guy. My husband defends her daily and refuses to see that she is to involved and wants to destroy our marriage like she has his other family members. I can't tak eit anymore. It has caused us to fight and has caused me to resent him everytime he defends her. Help!!!!!!

I totally feel for you. I too have a MIL from hell - she is very controlling and likes to play mind games. We haven't talked to her since xmas. Thank goodness we live 8 hours away from her, I find that distance really helps. One thing I have found that is important to remember is to stand your ground and don't let her manipulate you or your family. Be careful of what you say about her to your H, after all it is his mother and he will always defend her even if she has done something horrible. You can't change her but you can change how you react and how you are. I used to never say anything to her, now even though she has tried to turn all the rest of her family against me, she knows that I won't put up with her controlling ways and I have to remember she is the one with the problem not me. My heart goes out to you and I don't know if this helped at all but I just wanted to let you know I feel for ya<BR>