I have been married 9 yrs. My husband has ADD and OCD, disorders. Last 9 yrs I have tried to work with his temper which is usually caused by his compulsive personality, he knows he can not expect me to be perfect and compulsive like him, but yet things bother him and he can not control his temper, he gets abusive when he is angry, he uses profinity, and tells me to get seperated from him. but after he is done being angry, he forgets what he said.<BR>He is taking medication to control his temper, but I can not take this anymore. I feel distant from him and I have asked him to go for joint counselling, but he rather take trial seperation. He is happy the way things are and can not change anymore so it is up to me now to do what ever I want. I want to save marriage for our 5 yr old son. but he thinks I should do what makes me happy.<BR>please advise what I can do from my end.