I've had a wonderful week and a half!!! I haven't been able to be in here much, but great strides are being taken on the home front.<P>My husband admitted he had a pornography problem and he and I both are in a 12-step program. I am still in Interact, so we're doing all the "program" stuff we can handle. One of the things our sponsors both told us is that our getting this far after such a rough period in April (he kicked me, I threw a lamp, he got cut, I got arrested, yadda yadda yadda), that this is probably the first relationship to come through such a violent incident and want to stay intact.<P>Wanting to stay intact and accomplishing the goal, we both realize, may not be what will happen. But whatever comes of our marriage, the counseling we are both receiving will help us both individually so that if we do split up, we won't keep making the same mistakes with other people.<P>I'm hopeful and delighted with all that's happening. His four children didn't come down for the summer.... which is great, and he told his Rambo Ex wife to stay off the telephone. The child support ($1,500 a month) comes out automatically each month out of his military retirement and it's always on time. He talks to them twice a week on the telephone and they communicate via email and cards. So communication is still there. But he is putting our marriage and our mental and psychological health first, and that's wonderful.<P>My children (grown, married, and living in other states) were told that there wouldn't be any visiting this summer; that we had some "building" to do! <P>Just thought I'd let ya know!<P>Thanks for all the assistance in these postings. Even though some I didn't agree with, I did appreciate the time, effort, thought, and consideration given to all of them!<P>Katherine