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Without going into every detail, I am trying to sort out what therapy-rules dictate that a spouse should have no contact whatsoever with the other spouse in a situation where one left with the kids and is (a) requiring that the other seek counseling and (b) going to counseling themselves. <P>The separation is recent and both spouses seem to want to contact each other. The spouse who left with the kids is being counseled not to talk, e-mail or visit with the other spouse for an indefinite period of time and is abiding by the counsel.<P>I realize this is vague, but I'm reluctant to put many details out on the Internet. I was just hoping for some type of validation(s) or explanation(s) for the type of counsel the one spouse received.<P>Any insight that can be offered with such limited information would be appreciated.
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I know when I left, I too was advised not to contact my ex - yet I have 3 children and so I was told I could call them, but not to talk or discuss anything with their father - it was to be done through counsel. The only reason I could see is that, at least in my case because of the verbal bashing, they felt this way their could be no misconception has to what was wanted and expected. Yet, it didn't work. <P>I don't agree, I think if the two can have a civil conversation they should be allowed to discuss things - if not then, best left to counsel so that there are not additional outcomes - such as I am having to go through.
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thx for the feedback.<P>The situation is not to the point of legal counsel yet. I'm just trying to understand any logic to preventing two people who still love and care for each other make contact with each other.
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It wasn't just legal counsel that gave this insight, actually it was the professional counselors that I had talke with and that my chilren were working with that felt sometimes space and time between the communication was the best way for each to gain insight of themselves enough to communicate in a logical way - and let me tell you as much as I thought it was very confusing in the beginning, after a year of trying to work thourgh all these issues in my life I have found that sometimes talk through others was better than talking together.<BR>
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