My husband and I have had our bad times, I was at the conflict stage and he has moved into the withdrawal stage and left just before our 8th wedding anniversary. He found another woman who would listen to his problems and of course a relationship has developed between them.<P>I have asked him to read marriagebuilders but it is all to much pressure and he says he made his decision, the day he left. He wants time to get over the guilt etc and can see that by walking out he has made a lot more problems, ie work, family etc.<P>After reading marriagebuilders I have the confidence to start to rebuild. Can this be done on my own and he will come round eventually, he is still very very angry and I am on prozac. I can see where things went wrong, but really love my husband and want what we used to have, he can only see the negative because of his anger and frustration with me. This is his second marriage and the girlfriend has had 2 failed marriages as well.<P>Could someone please explain the sex thing too me he is happy to sleep with me but cant get his clothes on quick enough because of the guilt. Is it because he does still have somefeeling for me and I am filling one of his needs? I have sex with him for 2 reasons, 1. because I live him and 2. because it is one in the eye for the girlfriend.<P>As you can tell I am totally confused and maybe someone can help to sort things out in my head.<P>I want him back. (we also have a 5yr old daughter)<P>RJS