back in may my wife started an affair over the internet then by phone whit a guy from the country wherewe originally moved from 7 years ago. i only finded out in giune 2weeks after she went back to this coutry for vacation and i recived the phone bill for that mounth and found this recurrent number listed every night. she came back in ougust and i confronted her,she did not denyed and proposed me that we should have to live in the house as roommates. forghet it i sayed. i offered to recincile and to put that affair behinde us and work on hour marriage. she did not expressed any entusiasms. i had to post a block for international long distance onthephone line becouse she was still calling her lover in europa. then i wrote an Email to him asking to break the relation. she got really mad when he told her. did not worked couse she started buyng calling cards and placing calls anyway. so one night i decided to call him myself. i got numbers, address and all kind of informations about this guy couse started to play detective. i called him at home and coused him trubles with his family, so he decided to end the relation and adviced my wife not to look for him anymore. she felt bad and started going out with her girlfriends and making males friends. i busted her, got all telephone numbers and called all of them. she went back at buyng calling cards, and try to reach her lover in europa untill i busted her again 2 days ago. this time i called her mom and sisters, they still living in our country. gave them his number and had called and treathened, him and his family. not to answer my wife phonecalls and do not talk to her inside the chatroom where they meet in the first place. he did called me back and sweared the tha relation was over but my wife was still calling him all the time. he bagged me to put a end to all those treathening phoncalls to his mom and once again he was going to make sure my wife understood that the lovestory was over. and so he did. mywife has spent the last 2 days in front of the desktop, logged on the chatroom and MS-messanger tryng to get in thouch with him but no result.on the other end this last 4 month i have been tryng to keep the dialog open, expressing my willines to rebuild this marriage, she also had allowed me to have sex. but honestly i feel that she was meeting her emotional need with him and phisical need with me and recreational needs with all those new friends she had start to make. she hate me now, more then ever. the taker part of her has completely thaken over. i explained to her that i involved her family becouse i felt alone and needed support. she hate me even more for that. she just told, me 1 hour ago.now i am not alone anymore, i have everybody else on my side and now i have to ignore her just like she will ignore me from now on. i feel miserabile. a word of advice please,anyone.<BR>i have read trough all this site. i have found a tons of information, and feel more confident and aware but really do not know how to start a reconciliation and if ever will be possibile. HELP please