Hello gang , yes it's me with another question? My husband wants me to think this is ok but is it normal? He is always looking at porn on the net, I mean that is his main purpose for the internet. He is always looking at naked pics (especially interracial ones) Black men and white women. At one time he even brought up the idea of me being involved in this( A threesome thing). Which threw me for a loop. But he always says to me its normal for a man to look. I mean I understand this but at the same time he doesn't have much of a sex drive it appears to me that this takes the place of it.I just think its kind of rude. I came in the room the other day and he was looking at some womans profile with nude breasts and all I said to him was you sure have balls, and he just got mad and said I was domineering.. I dont think its normal. But maybe Im the one that is being wierd about it . He says its not like Im touching or anything but yet he can go into rooms (chats) where the women are getting off on the mic and stuff and it makes me sick! Anyone else been through this?

No, it is not normal but it is disrespectful of you. Go to the emotional needs board as they have dealt with this topic lots.

I am going through the same thing with my husband. It is very difficult to understand being a woman because, well, I can only speak for myself, but I don't have the desire to look at those kind of pictures or do cybersex activities, in fact I would feel terrible about it if I did. But, my husband says it has nothing to do with me. It's just sex. My husband made the same suggestions about threesomes and stuff. It was very important for me to stay true to myelf and not venture into something I wasn't okay with just to please him. In addition, he was hiding his cybersex activities from me and when I found out I was angry and did not handle it well. Now, he just hides it better. I love him, but I hate that he does this. I can't control him, though, I will only drive myself crazy. So, I pray a lot. I wish the best for you however you decide to deal with this.

GreenEyes-39<P>As a 'man' I can say your husband is wrong and he is robbing you of what is due you. In fact, I call this "Cyber-Adultery".<P>For years, I robbed my wife of a normal relationship in much the same manner. I also wanted to involve her, against her will, in a very dark side of pornography (s/m, bondage).<P>I was wrong and it, along with other issues eventually cost me a marriage of 33-1/2 years. When I did change and repent, it was too late.<P>Speaking from personal experience, it is wrong for a man to have to look at the net, books, videos etc/ to become sexually aroused enough to make it with his wife.<P>[censored] from Texas